in my experience as a relationship counsellor and psychologist, there's a golden window of opportunity in which to get married - between 18 months and three years after your first date.If you've not walked down the aisle in that time, something may well be wrong with your relationship - and a belated wedding won't fix it.Can you handle that pain, day after day, for years? The women eventually gave their men a choice: marry me or lose me. They cut their guys off, cold turkey, no making up, getting back together, trying again.
But leave it longer than three years and you risk disaster.
We knew a couple who broke up after living together.
We discussed moving in together when my lease is up in October, but now I know he’s not ready. I tell him that he can still have that if we’re living together, but he’s still not sure when he’ll be ready. He feels really strongly about living with me and equates it to marriage.
When someone can't stop thinking about affairs, it's almost never really about "one hookup." You may be with the wrong guy, since plenty of people who love each other aren't meant to love each other forever. But your immediate problem is that you're bored in bed. You're right to worry about retaliation from your superior. And remind yourself of this: Just because you sexted him in the past doesn't mean he can punish you in the future. (OK, maybe more NSFW.) There's something unreal about it — something virtual and gamelike and silly since it's on your cell phone, right next to Candy Crush. I'm just saying it's easy to understand how this happened. It's going to be an issue that either breaks you apart or takes time to move beyond.
If you really love him, it's not the guy, it's the sex. If he makes your workdays uncomfortable with inappropriate advances, if he exacts retribution because you cut it off, if he shares those photos with co-workers, or if he blocks your advancement, that's harassment. If not, brush up on the info (or call one of the hotlines) here. What doesn't kill a relationship can make it stronger, I suppose. ) The most important thing is that you end the behavior and figure out why you're doing these self-destructive things rather than facing your problems head-on.